Blog Post 6: Bros Before Hoes

"Bros before Hoes" This term is a commonly referred to section of the "unwritten" "Man code" which refers to Men putting their friends or "brothers" before women. As it is respectful of one to treat those whose friendship was earned and is now respected above a woman who has not earned it.  For me it means man should prioritize his male friends over his girlfriend or any significant other. 

As I was reading this article about The Scientific Rationale for Bros Before Hoes by Tamburlaine. It discusses the rise and fall of testosterone levels in men based upon with whom they are interacting. And the authors main conclusion is “adult males usually elevate testosterone when interacting with adult women who are potential mates, but in a striking reversal, they have lower testosterone if the woman is a conjugal partner of a close friend”. If your testosterone levels drop while interacting with the mate of a close friend, this will obviously lower your sex drive, general aggression, etc. and this implications for precisely how and why men form and maintain bonds, Also that’s the main idea how the saying Bros before Hoes is made.

I don’t really think that these scientific facts really apply for Barney because he hits on his best friend’s sister, mother and also with his ex girlfriend. But with Ted Mosby it shows that it really applies. He never hits on Barney’s ex girlfriends or even just by knowing that it was Barney’s ex Ted will automatically ignore the girl.

The next article that I've read is about Bros Before Hoes in Masculinity by Poop53 this article discusses about Bros before Hos in Feminism that Even if there are some men who can accept equality among men and women, but the majority of men will never fully endorse women’s equality. This is not because most men are pigs looking to degrade women, it is because of the concept of the paradox of men’s power. Any men feel in control when they have the support of their fraternity of brothers. Most men are not willing to let their brothers down by siding with pro-feminists.

In one of the episodes in How I Met Your Mother barney said that he can't do this without his best bro Ted Mosby “ Ted were the dynamic duo if your not coming with then I'm just the dynamic uno and whats fun with that” this shows that barney can't move alone without his bro by his side just like the article discussed. Also Ted, Marshall and Barney thinks that they are superior over women in one of the episodes they said to Marshall's fiance Lily that “Men are talking so please”, also a sign of masculinity as the article discussed.

Blog Post 5: Barney Stinson - Great Womanizer

Womanizer is a man who likes many women and has short sexual relationships with them. As most of us know Barney Stinson played by Neil Patrick Harris in How I Met Your Mother is the greatest "Womanizer" and the only "Ladies Man" in the show. He attempts, and succeeds, at having sexual relationship with as many different women as possible. He also produced the "Playbook" where it shows the acts on how he manipulates women and sleep with them. Barney Stinson is the character that never wants to settle down into a monogamous relationship. 

As I was reading this article about How to Detect a Womanizer… by Binky it states here that there are obvious personality traits of a womanizer. And they have only one goal that is to get a woman into bed. Also womanizers are sweet talkers and very charming. They are very interested and very attentive. They give very special attention to their prey. They flatter woman in terms of their looks and they often feel for their prey. A perfect man for every woman. Funny, loving, attentive and very sympathetic. They are very good listeners, he knows exactly what you want to hear. Another thing about a womanizer they dress well and are too conscious about his looks. He has a jolly, care free personality, exciting and creative. He is very friendly especially to women.

This article clearly defined the traits of Barney Stinson as a Womanizer. It said there that they have only one goal and that is to get a woman into bed. Every single time they went to the bar that’s his only goals. He always wears suits and that’s one of the traits of a womanizer “dressing well and conscious about his looks”. He uses magic tricks or plays from the playbook that represent how creative he is and that’s another trait of a womanizer. "Anytime a girl wants to get back on her ex boyfriend, we'll be there. Anytime a girl wants to solve her father issues, we will be there. Anytime a bachelorette party drives to the city in a limo, sticking their heads up the sun roof shouting "what’s up New York", we will be what is up New York" this is a statement that Barney Stinson said in How I Met Your Mother and clearly shows that he is truly a womanizer. A perfect man for every woman. Funny, loving, attentive and very sympathetic.

Another article that I’ve read is about Signs of Womanizer, His personality traits by Womanizerns. It says here base on the studies of some psychologists womanizers struggle with low self-esteem, and their sexual conquest make them feel better about themselves. Also womanizers may have unstable or nonexistent relationships with father figures, especially in early childhood which makes them insecure who they are. Womanizers may have to manipulate and deceive women to get what they want, and they may ignore guilty feelings – or they may not feel any guilt at all. This, too, will help you recognize a womanizer.

This article defined some traits of a womanizer and its psychology. In the sitcom How I Met Your Mother Barney Stinson doesn’t know who really his father is because his mother told him different types of stories about who is his father or what happened to him and because of that his relationship with his father is nonexistent. And in the article it is said womanizers may have unstable or nonexistent relationships with father figures, especially in early childhood which makes them insecure who they are this is just a proof that even in his Psychology he’s still a womanizer. Also Barney uses different tricks or plays on the playbook to deceive and manipulate woman to sleep with him without any guilty feeling just pleasure on having sex. This shows another trait of a womanizer that’s stated in the article.

Blog Post 4: Long Distance Relationship

Long Distance Relationship for me its just a mere stepping stone to know whether you and your partner are really meant for each other. I've said this because I myself is into long distance relationship ever since I moved here in Manila. Its beed 6 months now yet our relationship is still going strong. But in How I Met Your Mother long distance relationships are said to be the downfall of a good romantic relationship.

The first article that I've read is all about 10 Reasons Why Long-Distance Relationships Just Don't Work by Tom Scheve. He said that long distance relationships are more difficult to maintain than normal romantic relationships. He also discussed about numerous reasons on why long distance relationship fails. First is the "Communication Breakdown", he said that if both parties are used to being one another's presence it might become increasingly disheartening to communicate in less personal way as time goes on. Second is the "Lack of Trust",long distance relationship may collapse under the weight of suspicion or in a misguided effort to protect your heart, you may decide to make some bade decisions of your own. Third is "Time vs Returns,As more time passes, the distant object of your affections can begin to seem like something abstract and less than real. An e-mail in your inbox isn't the same as having someone nearby who can help you in person, who can share your day with you, and who can create new memories with you. Fourth is the "Separation Issues", Of course, physical separation will almost always result in an initial sense of increased anxiety and unhappiness. Often, the hurt feelings fade away and the relationship recovers, even at a distance. On the other hand, these feelings can also contribute to a sharp deterioration of the relationship, which is now measured in miles instead of shared dreams. Lastly "Different Expectations", "Long-distance relationship" can mean different things to different people. It may mean "heart-wrenching tragedy" to one person, while for the other partner it means "year-long vacation". If a couple doesn't share the same expectations before the separation occurs, it can spell doom for a long-distance relationship. For one half of the couple, it may be viewed as a test of the relationship's strength, with an eye toward reuniting as soon as possible. The other, however, may view the separation as a fresh taste of life all on one's own.

Well in every relationship you have to really know your partner and trust him or her for the relationship to work even if its long distance relationship. As for Ted Mosby he didn't trust her girlfriend (Victoria) that she would hold on to their relationship and also he assumed before hand that Victoria would break up with him. Just like what the second reason why long distance relationship fails "Lack of Trust" explains it Ted made some bad decisions on his own. They also showed in How I Met Your Mother the third reason "Time vs Returns", at the first few weeks of Ted and Victoria's long distance relationship they were great but as time goes by they don't have anything to tell each other anymore. Thus that resulted to a breakup.

The next article that I've read about long distance relationships is FAQs About Long Distance Relationship by JF Milne Publications. It states that Multiple studies have measured relationship quality and compared couples in long distance relationships to those in geographically close relationships. Couples in Long distance relationships report identical levels of relationship satisfaction, intimacy, trust, and commitment. Their studies also show that long distance relationships do not break up at any greater rate than more traditionally, geographical close, couples. Multiple studies comparing long distance relationships to geographically close couples finds the same rate of breaking up over time. The rate of break up over 3 months is 21% to close relationship and 37% to long distance relationship, over 6 months 30% to close relationship and 27% to long distance relationship and for over 1 year the rate of break up is 25% to close relationship and 8% to long distance relationship. This clearly shows that as time goes on as you and your partner are used to long distance relationship the chance of breaking up is lesser compared to close relationship.

Lack of satisfaction and physical connection is one of the reason why long distance relationship don't last. In one of the episodes of How I Met Your Mother, Marshall and Lily stated that long distance relationships don't work because its "All talk and no Sex just Kill me now".

Blog Post 3: Ted Mosby: Hopeless Romantic

A hopeless romantic is in love with the idea of love. Someone who gives every person he encounter with the interest of love, a fighting chance to be with him. Like Ted Mosby. Ted wants to find the love of his life that often times, more wrong comes out in the hopes of being right.

Ted falls in love with girls who stare at him for too long, or has beautiful blue eye, and likes the same thing he does, Ted is one big mush of a hopeless romantic that sometimes, he gets into situation he can't get out off.

How can you know you're a hopeless romantic?

I've read an article about hopeless romantic entitled The "Hopelss" Romantic by DA Keene. He said that a hopeless romantic assumes that they will find the love of all loves, meaning every single time a person fails, like Ted, he never gives up. He never backs down on the thought that there is better reality. Being a hopeless romantic, according to DA being a hopeless romantic is not about getting to the destination but the voyage of looking for that one perfect love.

Ted has been in many relationships, being a hopeless romantic, he never misses a beat going one girl to another. Ted also believes that the woman he thinks is his “soulmate” would be the person that's most compatible with him, same interests, same movies, same old songs. Really, a hopeless romantic.

One more article on being hopeless romantic is Chelsea Fagan's We Should All Be Hopeless Romantics she wrote,when you say that you are a hopeless romantic, it usually conjures up images of unrequited love, desperate affection, and a tendency to ascribe importance to things which don’t necessarily possess it.

Being one means loving someone even if it kills you, but that can make you happy. Being a hopeless romantic may hurt you, just like Ted has been

dumped numerous times. It made him hopeful that someone may be out there, waiting for him, to be swooped up into the sunset. Every single one of us has that side.

Blog Post 2: Marriage: Marshall & Lily

Marriage is a union of two people who are very much in love with each other. One's love for a lifetime, destiny, and other half only to be separated by death. A taking of vows between two people to have and to hold, in sickness and in health 'till death do they part.

In Lily and Marshall's part, they have been married, after being lovers for quite a while, after college and to all of their friends, they show how they can work out the maze of a marriage.

What makes a good marriage?

As I was reading this article about Good Marriage by Dr. Phil. According to Dr. Phil "The quality of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it is built on a solid underlying friendship and meets the needs of the two people involved." Every marriage must start with friendship which is then built with trust, the two involved fill in whatever gap the other might have.

Also, he said that you get what you give. When you give better, you get better. Every marriage require certain attributes to the relationship. Marshall and Lily meet halfway through everything and anything they do. They give way to things that will make the partner happy and vice versa.

Next article that I've read is Ten Secrets to a Successful Marriage by Mitch Temple. In her article it said "Happiness is not the most important thing." In a marriage the couple should always make each other happy, like in Marshall and Lily's marriage the key is to nurture each other and know what makes the other one tick.

Marshall and Lily love each other so much, so much that they listen to each other, they do stuff that only they would do together, they love the same things. Marshall and Lily can be depicted as the lovers that are very much meant to be. The other half fills the gap of the other and vice versa.

Blog Post 1: Ted Mosby: Love at First Sight

Love at First Sight. Perhaps, it is the most romantic thing that can happen to anyone. It makes people lose their heart and mind within a matter of several seconds. 

I remember the first time I experienced love at first sight. I was in fifth grade, just a little boy sitting silently next to the door. I was a transferree student back then. I was mildly fascinated, look at all the new faces in the room. As I scanned the room, my eyes saw a girl I had never seen before. She was sitting across the table where I was seated and she was elegant. At that moment I realized that I was addicted to her. I just had to look back at her and stare at that beautiful face. Just like Ted Mosby when he saw Robin Sherbatsky in the sitcom "How I Met Your Mother".

How long does it have to be to be able to say you are or you are not in love?

As I was reading this article about Love At First Sight by Margarita Nahapetyan, Psychologists claim that men fall in love first. And also Psychologists says that love at first sight depends on our psychological state at the very moment. It think sometimes we will not even notice those charming eyes, and other times they can deeply impress us. Also they say we need approximately 30 seconds to fall in love or, to be more precise, to establish whether the person is attractive, and a potential mate.

This article clearly shows what happened to Ted Mosby after he saw Robin Scherbatsky across the bar. He fell in love immediately with Robin right after one glance. As Psychologist Jon Maner said "The study gets at the basic perceptual aspects in mating, It shows how quickly, strongly and automatically people are attuned to physical attractiveness whether looking for mates or guarding their mates from potential rivals". 

Can love at first sight be real? Do we really know what love at first sight is?

Another article that I've read is The Truth About Love at First Sight by Hal Johnson, this article tells us that love at first sight is a unique, instant attraction and a connection for a complete stranger having the indescribable chemistry. However, for others there is no such thing as love at first sight. Because everyone is unique and totally different from one another, they believe that they should get to know the person better before they fall in love. In contrary, others think that there are no time requirement and hard rules when it comes to love.

Just like what happened to Ted Mosby and Robin Scherbatsky when they first met. There was this instant attraction and a connection with each other even though they are complete stranger for each other. However, as Hal Johnson said "Everyone is unique and totally different from each other" Robin is one of those person who doesn't believe at love at first sight. So the moment that Ted told her that he loves her the connection and attraction of Robin towards Ted immediately disappeared.